4 Things

My friend Eric posted this on his blog and I stole it. I’m not going to try and make this sound original. I completely ripped it off – changing the answers to my own of course.

4 Things I need to spend more time on in my life:

1. Helping others
2. My relationship with my mother
3. Exercise (never ending)
4. Appreciating the little things

4 Things I need to spend less time on in my life:

1. Regretting the unchangeable past
2. Hating anyone or anything
3. Staring at a computer screen
4. Worrying and being fearful of things I have no control over

4 Things I wish I could spend more time on in my life:

1. Inner peace/spirituality
2. Making music
3. Riding my motorcycle
4. Doing anything creative

4 Things I love about myself:

1. I’m left-handed
2. I’m fairly easy on the eyes
3. My stature
4. My big huge…heart

4 Things I hate about myself:

1. I’m too hard on myself
2. I’m incredibly self centered
3. When I get really angry, I cry (HATE that)
4. My low threshold to pain

4 Things I love that I used to hate:

1. Vegetables
2. Exercise
3. Pool volleyball
4. Myself

4 Things I hate that I used to love:

1. Disney movies
2. The greater Los Angeles area
3. Sugary soda pop
4. Politics/politicians

4 Things I look forward to:

1. Growing old with Ray
2. Summer
3. Evening and/or weekend cocktails with friends or with Ray
4. Having my Alone Time

4 Things I dread:

1. Performing (YES performing! Scares the crap out of me.)
2. Winter
3. Conflict of any kind
4. Aging, wrinkles, getting gray

4 Things I once believed in but no longer do:

1. Our political system
2. Organized religion
3. American cinema
4. Consumerism

4 Things I believe in that I didn’t use to:

1. My own inner strength (You can be your own best friend? Who knew?)
2. The placebo effect
3. Mind over matter
4. Love

4 Things I love to do but I’m bad at:

1. Golf
2. Sing
3. Act
4. Write

4 Things I hate to do but I’m good at:

1. Technical troubleshooting
2. Photo retouching
3. Changing a flat tire
4. Running

4 Things I did that I am ashamed of:

1. Make my mother cry (On several occasions)
2. Stole lots of money from my family (Bad kid with a drug habit)
3. Got permanently expelled from High School
4. I spent way too many years hating myself for being homosexual

4 Things I did that I’m proud of:

1. Completed a four-year college program in three at the age of thirty-three
2. I was writer/director Frank Darabont’s assistant on his film The Shawshank Redemption
3. Played a gig at the world famous Roxy on the Sunset Strip with my former band “November”
4. Took care of my father when he was dying

4 Things I didn’t do that I regret:

1. A very close friend of mine was suffering from HIV complications in 94. When he got really sick, I couldn’t look at him. I avoided him and then he died. I never got to say goodbye.
2. Start exercising while my body was producing its maximum amount of testosterone (Much different trying to bulk up at 45)
3. Become a professional performer – I never even tried
4. Save money for retirement sooner

4 Things I want before I die:

1. A better world
2. About 50 more years of being ambulatory, great skin and lots of sex
3. Ray with me for those 50 years
4. I want the people in my life to also have a happy wonderful long-lived life experience